Sometimes we make decisions in our lives that we regret. Other times we proudly go through our days wearing “No Regrets” t-shirts. Its a battle each day when we come up on challenges, roadblocks and barriers and have to make decisions or actions that effect the rest of our lives either positively or negatively.
Melyssa Ford of Blood Sweat and Heels created a “musical” hip-hop-era entitled For Vixens Who Have Considered Homicide When the Video is too Much. She wanted to do something to clear up any misconceptions or judgments that people have of her and other women who chose the “video girl” career path. “…for people to decide who you are from one pocket of your life…” she quoted during the episode featuring this musical, referring to her slightly unsuccessful attempt to remove the “video hoe” label from her popular industry booty.
It sucks that this is how things work in this world, but that’s what it is. Even Monica Lewinsky is still dealing with the national or perhaps even international perception of who she is based on a personal decision she made over a decade ago. Situations like these, are reasons why some people move through life carefully, realizing that the smallest decision can dictate how this world will perceive them.
If you are the type that doesn’t care what people think of you and think that later on in life you won’t be bothered by the pressures or judgments that may be cast upon you, by all means live life without inhibitions. For most of us-planners-or people who don’t want to be labeled, we cautiously plan out three steps before even taking one. Not that Melyssa did anything bad, or wasn’t proud of being in the industry at that time in her life. She says she has moved on from that lifestyle and wants the world to remove that label.
You can be the prettiest, smartest, toughest person with a cure for cancer and the world will only remember you for that “negative” part of your life.
Just a lil of the TRUTH…