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Love or Comfort

Is it settling for less if he’s everything you want, but you don’t love him? He treats you like a queen, believes you to be the best ever made, holds you on such a pedestal that even your biggest mistakes seem minimal. Is there better or is that the best? Will you ever actually have the one of your dreams in EVERY aspect of life-looks, style, education, finances, conversation, intellect, personality, goals, interests? Is that having your cake and eating it too? What if he has the looks you like, the personality you connect with, the religion in which you believe, the values and morals in which you agree, but you don’t love him? What else is out there…is there truly that soul connection? Is the soul connection even worth having? Can your soul not connect to your IDEAL mate? Is love all that matters? Can your souls grow a connection? Can you learn to love someone? Back in the OLD days many of them married for status and remained married for years, even married to this day. Now days when people marry their “soul mates” how long do those souls endure??? Does the comfort of life outweigh the comfort of love? If he has all that you desire, its not settling down, its settling up…nevertheless, its settling.
Some marry for love, some marry for comfort of lifestyle…call me greedy, I want both!

Curtesy of Google images

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Just a lil of The TRUTH

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Posted by on October 20, 2013 in Random thoughts


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Cattiness aside

Courtesy of Google Images

Courtesy of Google Images

Step out of the box; Try something new; Move outside of your comfort zone. I’m talking about NETWORKING! The most powerful opportunity available to you! When you hear the word NETWORK, of course you think of business promotion or opportunities. GROWTH! Business, school, financial, spiritual, personal and social. Networking helps in all areas of life.
In the world of WOMEN, it seems so difficult or challenging to reach out to the female counterpart. Competition seems to always exists regardless of the situation. Must we be so petty, catty, jealous of one another’s strengths or possessions?
It seemed so easy for men to create long lasting friendships or brotherhoods, yet women enter into friendly relationships with inhibitions and cautiousness. Sports and technology of any kind is a commonality that most men share. Women share more commonalities/interests yet can’t find the right fit of friends. With the repertoire of interests-shopping, cooking, working, fashion, hair, makeup, clothing, shoes, children, men- our gender has the gift of gab and enjoys socializing, yet in a room full of women we only speak with whom we know.

Are we that judgmental or envious that we cannot enjoy genuine company and conversation without thinking a step ahead?

Without a receptive personality, you can become just a person in passing. Most recently I’ve tried a different approach, and the connections that I’ve made, the experiences I’ve enjoyed have all been rejuvenating. I see future opportunities for business and financial growth.

I challenge for you to evaluate your approach when meeting someone new, especially a woman. Enter into conversation with a nonjudgmental attitude, Be yourself within edit (everything doesn’t have to be said or expressed), Understand that everything said is not with positive or negative intentions. Gain the ability to approach a situation openly.

Take the time to reflect on the people around you, what is their purpose in your life?
People are put in your life for a reason and a season. Take the opportunity to use the tools placed in your pathway that can make for a better YOU.

Just a lil of the TRUTH

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Posted by on August 8, 2013 in Our Culture/Our World


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Passing Me By

So I was doing some grocery shopping after church, talking on the phone to my best friend, when I noticed a handsome guy. Not gorgeous, not so sexy, not even REALLY attractive. He was my type though, tall, dark skinned, clean cut hair on top and on his face. His arms were DEVINE! The kind that didn’t need to flex to prove their worth. I did a once over and gathered all of the information I needed. No rig, basked full of beers and other bachelor types of items. He was dressed in a cutoff t-shirt. I quickly got off the phone and grabbed my case of waters. I left the aisle only to glance at him again. I grabbed some milk and continued to glare at him. I made him aware of me noticing him. I thought I was just tripping, so I tried to forget about him and finish shopping. I occasionally glanced around to look for him and couldn’t so I moved on. I wished I would have said something to him but I proceeded to the checkout. Figuring I’d missed my chance as I headed to the car. There he was loading in his groceries. Then again at the light and another light…he smilled at me and checked me out and I made him aware that I knew he was checking me out this time and not vice versa. I turned off to head home, wishing I would have followed him…stalkerish I know.

I’ve been trying to be a different me. The old me would of had his name and number at the first light. I’, trying not to pursue, I’m trying to allow them to pursue me. Guys have it a lil too easy now a days so I decided to miss out on this one hoping that he wasn’t worth it, or if he was then I’d see him again…and just incase its the latter, I’ve memorized the make, model, color and personalized license plate of the car. STALKERISH I know!

Just a lil bit of The Truth…

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Posted by on April 21, 2013 in My Reality Show


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Beholder of Beauty

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”–Tres Cliche

(the term cliche is so cliche it looses it’s own meaning)

Is it just me, or does anyone else notice the Odd Couples floating around lately? I have been seeing couples together that don’t EVEN look like they belong together.  It must be true that opposites truly attract.  I met this nice lady, my age, married, one child, and living a good life.  She dresses cute,modern, and semi preppy, her hair stays done, she’s a lil stuck up, but down to earth.  Well I met her husband, and WOW-straight up thug! Gold grill, Sunglasses at night, and every kind of tennis shoe that dudes buy.  My opinion, she’s too cute for him.  Met another lady, nappy wig, and bucked teeth-no lie.  Met her husband, and Mr. was cute! I started thinking maybe she used to be cute, and had some sort of sickness, and the medicine caused her bodily hair growth.


I just don’t get it! but maybe that’s just the way it goes, one is cute, the other is definitely not! So that makes you wonder…if you are with a handsome man, and you think of yourself as gorgeous, or simply cute…Which one is the ugly one???


Just a lil bit of The Truth…

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Posted by on September 8, 2012 in Our Culture/Our World


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Happily Never After???

So now days, most of my friends are in that FAMILY mode, baby, boyfriend/ /husband.  I notice now that everyone is getting married…at a young age.  I think my 20’s should be spent single, or dating.  Why do people feel like this tender age of mid 20’s is the time to settle down and start a family?  Have they not seen Sex in the City??? I am single, with an occasional date, and loving the freedom, free time and FUN!!! some people just want to feel like they’ve accomplished something I guess. Why not accomplish financial goals, or career goals, or educational goals? So when you return to your highschool reunion at the age of 27 or 28 the scene plays out as follows:

Them: Hey what have you been up to?

You: Oh I’ve been married for 3 years, we have 3 kids, and I work at (enter lame ass job here)—-because you have put no focus on your career, so you must have a lame ass job

Them: Oh really, how sweet

You: How about yourself, any kids?

Them: Nope, just a boyfriend/fiance that loves me and a bangin’ ass job!!! (Snaps fingers and walks away)

You: sit at the table all night sipping Ginger Ale (because you are pregnant with the 4th child) wallowing in your Shoulda, Coulda, Wouldas.


My high school reunion should play out like this:

Them: So what have you been up to?

Me: Working, Traveling, Shopping, Dating,-A little of everything

Them: Oh (Mouth drops open)

People, lighten up, you still have a life to live, you can still have kids up until menopause…they might be healthy then too (pray about it).  All I’m saying is don’t be in such a rush to live out the “American Dream” to the point where you can’t live out your Single Lady Dreams!!!

Just a little of  The Truth


Posted by on August 19, 2012 in Random thoughts


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Cougar Town-The Reality Show

Age ain’t nothin but a number, throwing down ain’t nothin’ but a thang(aaliyah)…Age ain’t nothing but a number, but maturity keeps you sane.(me)

These old ladies eager to get a young man-for what?  They initially concern themselves with the sexual stamina these young men possess.  They want the wild life, the freak show, the fire and desire (my Rick James voice).  They end up getting take to the land of ecstasy on the emotional roller coaster of lust.  Lust-though few admit it-has its own emotional train.

I am fortunate enough to witness a real life cougar in action, live and in living color.  Its’s really embarrassing.  The age difference is 23 years.  These episodes are hilarious, they portray intimate romance, but really its all about those 3 letters S-E-X.  I think it started off that way for them both, but like a woman, she grew feelings, she started caring.  Realizing he is a good guy with good genes, and personality, she fell into her feelings.  Realizing he hoped for kids one day-she was barren, she snapped back to reality.  Realizing she was the same age as his mother and frequented that house often.  She couldn’t be BFFs with her same age mother in law!

Don’t get me wrong, if you are a cougar be one by all means, but realize what it’s about.  The 3 letters, not the 3 words.

Just a lil bit of The Truth!

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Posted by on June 6, 2012 in My Reality Show


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I Need Help (Relationship Help)

This is all new to me.  I am talking to this guy who is oh so gorgeous, and fun to be around.  We’ve only known each other for almost two months, and we spend lots of time together.  We talk for hours on our interests, goals, desires, EVERYTHING.  He has no problem telling me what he wants, and asking me how I feel.  The problem is me!!!! I can’t let go with him.  I am still gaurding myself so that I don’t get my heart broken.  He hasn’t said he wants to be in a relationship, but I think that this could lead there after a while.  I don’t want to rush him into anything, but I don’t want to be strung along…I know, I know, it has only been two months.  I don’t like going to many places with him, but he wasnts to go EVERYWHERE with me.  He even wanted to hang with my family during the Christmas Holiday.  My thing is I don’t want to appear as a couple if we aren’t one officially, because then I’ll get comfortable that way, and suddenly it will all change.  What do I do about him.  I know he likes me but I am scared of getting hurt by him if a serious relationship is not what he wants, and if a good friendship is all he wants.

Now, on the other hand, there is this guy that is heads over hill for me. Wants to be in a serious long lasting relationship and everything.  The problem here is I don’t really like him back.  I was attracted to him when I first met him, and we spent a little time together, but he had to move out of state for school, and the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder doesn’t work for me, it’s more of an out of sight out of mind type of thing.  The longer I go without seeing him, the less of a desire I have for him.  I’ve explained that, and he said we should work on seeing each other more.  I should take trips to come see him when I can.  Here’s the problem.  I don’t want to go see him,  there is nothing that sparks my interest of wanting to see or visit him. 

So, what am I to do…both guys are GORGEOUS, both are a little younger than me, both are still in college(without a job 😦 ).  Both have bodies that are wonderful…One more so than the other.  So who do I choose to spend my time and thoughts on?  I want to be in a real relationship with the first one, and can see us together.  The other, I know I can be in a realationship with, but the thrill is not there.  The only time I even consider being with him is when I think about being lonely and know that he will be there for me.  So I string him along for security.  What should I do???


Posted by on December 29, 2010 in My Reality Show


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