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Love or Comfort

Is it settling for less if he’s everything you want, but you don’t love him? He treats you like a queen, believes you to be the best ever made, holds you on such a pedestal that even your biggest mistakes seem minimal. Is there better or is that the best? Will you ever actually have the one of your dreams in EVERY aspect of life-looks, style, education, finances, conversation, intellect, personality, goals, interests? Is that having your cake and eating it too? What if he has the looks you like, the personality you connect with, the religion in which you believe, the values and morals in which you agree, but you don’t love him? What else is out there…is there truly that soul connection? Is the soul connection even worth having? Can your soul not connect to your IDEAL mate? Is love all that matters? Can your souls grow a connection? Can you learn to love someone? Back in the OLD days many of them married for status and remained married for years, even married to this day. Now days when people marry their “soul mates” how long do those souls endure??? Does the comfort of life outweigh the comfort of love? If he has all that you desire, its not settling down, its settling up…nevertheless, its settling.
Some marry for love, some marry for comfort of lifestyle…call me greedy, I want both!

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Just a lil of The TRUTH

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Posted by on October 20, 2013 in Random thoughts


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Passing Me By

So I was doing some grocery shopping after church, talking on the phone to my best friend, when I noticed a handsome guy. Not gorgeous, not so sexy, not even REALLY attractive. He was my type though, tall, dark skinned, clean cut hair on top and on his face. His arms were DEVINE! The kind that didn’t need to flex to prove their worth. I did a once over and gathered all of the information I needed. No rig, basked full of beers and other bachelor types of items. He was dressed in a cutoff t-shirt. I quickly got off the phone and grabbed my case of waters. I left the aisle only to glance at him again. I grabbed some milk and continued to glare at him. I made him aware of me noticing him. I thought I was just tripping, so I tried to forget about him and finish shopping. I occasionally glanced around to look for him and couldn’t so I moved on. I wished I would have said something to him but I proceeded to the checkout. Figuring I’d missed my chance as I headed to the car. There he was loading in his groceries. Then again at the light and another light…he smilled at me and checked me out and I made him aware that I knew he was checking me out this time and not vice versa. I turned off to head home, wishing I would have followed him…stalkerish I know.

I’ve been trying to be a different me. The old me would of had his name and number at the first light. I’, trying not to pursue, I’m trying to allow them to pursue me. Guys have it a lil too easy now a days so I decided to miss out on this one hoping that he wasn’t worth it, or if he was then I’d see him again…and just incase its the latter, I’ve memorized the make, model, color and personalized license plate of the car. STALKERISH I know!

Just a lil bit of The Truth…

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Posted by on April 21, 2013 in My Reality Show


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Happily Never After???

So now days, most of my friends are in that FAMILY mode, baby, boyfriend/ /husband.  I notice now that everyone is getting married…at a young age.  I think my 20’s should be spent single, or dating.  Why do people feel like this tender age of mid 20’s is the time to settle down and start a family?  Have they not seen Sex in the City??? I am single, with an occasional date, and loving the freedom, free time and FUN!!! some people just want to feel like they’ve accomplished something I guess. Why not accomplish financial goals, or career goals, or educational goals? So when you return to your highschool reunion at the age of 27 or 28 the scene plays out as follows:

Them: Hey what have you been up to?

You: Oh I’ve been married for 3 years, we have 3 kids, and I work at (enter lame ass job here)—-because you have put no focus on your career, so you must have a lame ass job

Them: Oh really, how sweet

You: How about yourself, any kids?

Them: Nope, just a boyfriend/fiance that loves me and a bangin’ ass job!!! (Snaps fingers and walks away)

You: sit at the table all night sipping Ginger Ale (because you are pregnant with the 4th child) wallowing in your Shoulda, Coulda, Wouldas.


My high school reunion should play out like this:

Them: So what have you been up to?

Me: Working, Traveling, Shopping, Dating,-A little of everything

Them: Oh (Mouth drops open)

People, lighten up, you still have a life to live, you can still have kids up until menopause…they might be healthy then too (pray about it).  All I’m saying is don’t be in such a rush to live out the “American Dream” to the point where you can’t live out your Single Lady Dreams!!!

Just a little of  The Truth


Posted by on August 19, 2012 in Random thoughts


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