Don’t Make Your Problems Mine

I recently came to the realization that people have wised up and put a twist on Misery Loves Company. It’s a little more subtle nowadays. There used to be a time when people would blatantly rain on your parade because they were unhappy about something in their own lives. Lately, I’ve seen and heard people make subtle comments that leave you wondering if someone is trying to persuade your positivity into negativity “Shade“.


In general conversation within small groups or one on one I’ve heard comments such as:

“I couldn’t eat/drink that it has too many calories.”

“I couldn’t wear something that revealing/tight/short/bright”

“You never wanted to go to the doctor for that?”

I initially wondered  if some people do this because they want to be nosey, know more about you, or try to make you feel bad about “it” but after thinking about it, and trying to bring positivity back into my space I’m concluding that people do this to figure out how you are dealing/coping with certain situations because they didn’t have the tools to get through it.

Try not to put your worries and concerns on other people. I’m sure each of us are dealing with our own battles, we don’t need you to add to our list.

My Morning Cup-things to ponder throughout the day

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Posted by on September 26, 2015 in My Morning Cup, Random thoughts


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Cleanliness is next to Godliness…so I guess dirty is the devil

Growing up I took showers and baths at night. I would lay out my school clothes for the next day (seemingly easy since I went to private school until middle school). I made sure that red plaid pleated skirt and blue button down shirt didn’t need ironing. My mother would braid my hair or give me ponytails, tie them down with a scarf or stocking cap-literally old pantyhose. As I got older it became acceptable for me to take my showers in the morning it helped me to awaken for the day, and made me feel better having a fresh shower in the morning.

When I did take showers in the morning, the scent of the soap and cocoa butter lingered throughout the day. When I took showers at night, I’d awaken the next morning, wash my face, brush my teeth and wipe down other areas that could potentially get musty throughout the day.

This prelude is an example of my hygiene rituals. We all should have our own. The problem I have is when there is no daily hygiene ritual. Like -none-nothing-zip-zilch-zero-nada NOTHING! 


You can’t possibly feel comfortable all day smelling that way! Your skin doesn’t itch? Your nose doesn’t burn? You don’t get a headache? 

I guess you’re immune to it, but if so you need new friends, because I’m pretty sure they know you stink. 

Your feet shouldn’t smell like old cheeto’s. Your clothes shouldn’t be sour like you left them in the washer over the weekend. Your breath should not smell stale.

Y’all gotta do better! Get you a simple hygiene routine and start on it now! Tell your friends about their odor disorder and help ’em out.

This morning as you read this blog I hope you make mental notes on managing your hygeine. 

My nose and stomach thank you in advance!

My Morning Cup-thoughts to ponder throughout the day 

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Posted by on September 22, 2015 in My Morning Cup


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Trying Something New

So I thought about trying out a new blogging path. I figured I can try out my posts on this blog before creating another blog site. The biggest problem I face in blogging is …actually…blogging. Time, energy, desire, and lack of topic all contribute to the missing entries of my blog. So I thought about a blog My Morming Cup. A daily post with a topic to ponder all day. Well here it comes, I will attempt to post every morning! Wish me luck!
Just a lil bit of the TRUTH …

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Posted by on September 19, 2015 in Random thoughts


Your Stamp on This World

Your Stamp on This World

Sometimes we make decisions in our lives that we regret. Other times we proudly go through our days wearing “No Regrets” t-shirts. Its a battle each day when we come up on challenges, roadblocks and barriers and have to make decisions or actions that effect the rest of our lives either positively or negatively.

Melyssa Ford of Blood Sweat and Heels created a “musical” hip-hop-era entitled For Vixens Who Have Considered Homicide When the Video is too Much. She wanted to do something to clear up any misconceptions or judgments that people have of her and other women who chose the “video girl” career path. “…for people to decide who you are from one pocket of your life…” she quoted during the episode featuring this musical, referring to her slightly unsuccessful attempt to remove the “video hoe” label from her popular industry booty.

It sucks that this is how things work in this world, but that’s what it is. Even Monica Lewinsky is still dealing with the national or perhaps even international perception of who she is based on a personal decision she made over a decade ago. Situations like these, are reasons why some people move through life carefully, realizing that the smallest decision can dictate how this world will perceive them.

If you are the type that doesn’t care what people think of you and think that  later on in life you won’t be bothered by the pressures or judgments that may be cast upon you, by all means live life without inhibitions. For most of us-planners-or people who don’t want to be labeled, we cautiously plan out three steps before even taking one. Not that Melyssa did anything bad, or wasn’t proud of being in the industry at that time in her life. She says she has moved on from that lifestyle and wants the world to remove that label.

You can be the prettiest, smartest, toughest person with a cure for cancer and the world will only remember you for that “negative” part of your life.

Just a lil of the TRUTH…

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Posted by on April 18, 2015 in Our Culture/Our World


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A Change is A Comin’

Every couple of months, I get my writing fever. I constantly think about writing-whether it be fiction novels, or blogging, but every so often I tell myself I will blog more, but when I find the time, I’m too tired to focus on anything and prefer to stare blankly at reality TV.

Well its that time again!!! I NEED TO POST MORE OFTEN

I’m still in the “finding” stage of blogging. Because I love writing, and it comes easily to me, I find I can write about anything (hence the variety of topics on my blog currently). I’m thinking I need to focus on a single topic. Well I’m starting with my OUR CULTURE/OUR WORLD genre of writings. There is always something brewing within our communities, there is always conversation about these issues, but sometimes the right things aren’t being discussed. Facts are presented, questions are asked, but dialogue is missing, thought provocation is absent. We’ll see how this goes. I’m going to try a month of each category, see which I like best and move on to the next stage of my blogging- “tailoring”.

I need your help! Comment, like, subscribe, follow! let me know what posts you like, which genre of my writing you like reading. Click on the different folders to read a variety of my posts, or simply scroll through eye catching titles, or intriguing topics. FEEDBACK


Just a lil of the TRUTH…

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Posted by on April 9, 2015 in Random thoughts


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Black America’s Boyfriend

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Tall, Dark and Handsome! (They might have coined the phrase, but we truly understand it.) From his smooth chocolate skin, full lips and curly dark hair. Derek Luke is the go-to ,all American, all around good guy boyfriend for black cinema. Whenever I think about a storyline in or outside of major productions I (and I’m sure many others) envision Derek Luke as the good guy. He always gets a role of a guy that finishes last, but runs a good race.

When watching his latest role on Empire, I was reminded of his awesome talent, his believable portrayal of his characters and ability to make us and his on screen love interests fall in love with him time after time. I started thinking about him as a person. Of course I don’t know him as a person, but I’ve never heard any negative news regarding him. I read an article on and It made me love him all the more. We all love his roles in Biker Boyz and  Friday Night Lights, I even enjoyed his “boy next door” role in Baggage Claim. I also like that we see him in small and large roles. It seems he’s not too proud to be in a movie with a role that may not be a big box office hit. He seems to have steady work in Hollywood whether it be a Tyler Parry film, or guest appearances on prime time television. I’m waiting for another moving role such as Antwone Fisher. He deserves it!

Whether he’s shaking his shoulders like P. Diddy or head of security for an Empire, Mr. Luke always performs.

Just a little of the TRUTH…

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Posted by on April 7, 2015 in Our Culture/Our World


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I Like My Mondays Off

Those of us whole indulge in the hustle and bustle known a the work week, we become elated by the news of a Monday Holiday! The Friday before the Mega Mondays we mentally plan out each second of that day. Whether it be with plans of relaxation, extended travel day, shopping or errand running, we revel in the thought of not having to go in to work.

I had plans of shopping, running errands, major housework chores, and relaxing-all on the same day. Well, man plans and God laughs, because this day turned out to be a light breakfast, light laundry washing, light cleaning, reading and writing day. And next I am soaking my feet, polishing my nails, moisturizing my hair and… who knows. I’m enjoying my day off in the cozy house during this wintery President’s Day.

Because I’m a teacher, I look forward to our days off. Weekends off are great, but Mondays and week long breaks are just what we need to recharge our Energizer!

So long for now…until Spring Break!

Just a lil of the TRUTH…

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Posted by on February 16, 2015 in Random thoughts