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Exisiting with the Enemy


“In one ear, out the other.” “…like water on a ducks back” and any other common sayings you may think of.

When dealing with a circle of friends, its inevitable that everyone won’t get along perfectly. Something will be done or said that offends or annoys another. It is a struggle for some people to share air with someone they don’t really care for. Mature people should be able to hold conversations and space with someone they don’t really like. In the beginning it may be irritating or uncomfortable, but that’s because negative feelings are still brewing. Once a conversation is had to hash out an issue, regardless of the outcome, being around that person shouldn’t fluster you any longer. It should be easier to be cordial in a group setting, enjoy yourself, involve yourself in activities and conversation without having positive or negative emotions towards a particular person. Even if the conversation is more of an argument and disdain for one another is established, there should be no need for sly comments or ugly looks. Both parties said what they felt needed to be said, so why put energy into disliking someone. Explain your position and move on! Don’t allow it to suck life/joy from you.

Just a lil of the TRUTH…

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Posted by on June 11, 2014 in Random thoughts


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An approach taken by some religious people who believe that we can live harmoniously in our own faith and beliefs. Creating an understanding across the division of different faiths. Where your opinion might differ in taking this approach in religion, it is a way of life we all should inhabit in social arenas. Can you not be cordial? Is it impossible to be in the same room with an “enemy” and not speak but still enjoy yourself? Does your disdain for a person’s being upset you to the point of irritation?

In self acceptance, you may be able to overcome the hatred or dislike of another person. Although it may not sound connected, the ability to remain calm and pleasant around people you aren’t particularly fond of, or which you may have had an altercation (verbal or physical) is related to being happy with yourself and your life.

There are some people who can’t have a conversation with a general group of people if there is one person with whom they don’t get along. They get flustered and irritated at the presence of a person they don’t like. It is important to allow certain feelings and words to go in one ear and out the other. After the disdain for someone has been established, words have been exchanged-there is no room for ugly looks, sly comments or irritation. By all means you are entitled to not like someone, it’s impossible to like everyone and their actions, but don’t let it suck you in emotionally, it can be draining.

Is it possible to enter into a room or conversation with someone you don’t like and have no feelings or emotions, positive or negative about the situation? I challenge you to try to erase any negative emotions towards a person, put yourself in a situation around that person and feel a sense of freedom when you are able to feel free of tension. And although the other party may not have let go of their inhibitions, your actions may silently encourage them to release the tension that is binding.

The phrase “Like water on a ducks back” is a phrase to take to heart, not allowing small issues of the world to infect your psyche as there are enough things in life that will attempt to contaminate your being. Control that which you can!

Just a lil of the TRUTH…

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Posted by on December 29, 2013 in Our Culture/Our World, Random thoughts


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Thanks for Your Consideration!

Anyone ever wonder why everyone else seems so concerned with what you are doing in your free time??? DAMN!!! I pay the cost to be the boss, so let me do what the hell I want to do!  Sorry for all the explicitives, but some things just piss me off.  I’m not like most people, I’m happy just chilling.  My party days were fun and full of excitement!  So now that I want to just chill, there must be something wrong with me.  I’m good, my idea of a good time is doing whatever I feel like at that moment, not what you think I should do!  I might go to a party now and again, and when I go, I sit in a nice seat, drink a nice drink, and sing a nice song.  When my JAM comes on, I get up and do a nice dance, but that’s about it.  My days of dancing in the middle of the floor until my hair sweats out are over! It was fun, and I’ll hit the clubs a little now days, but it’s not a priority.  I like shopping, and eating, watching an occaional movie.

What bothers me though is that YOU are so worried about what I choose to do in MY free time, you think I should go visit some old friends that I rarely talk to.  You think that I should be trying to see all my old buddies that  I haven’t seen in a while and catch up and relive the glory days…My glory days are right now! I don’t dwell on the good ole days because everyday I live is a good day!  I don’t mind hanging with the old friends, but it’s not my priority, my life is in a different place than theirs.  I have different priorities, and really they aren’t even my friends anymore.  So stop asking me what I’m going to do, why I’m not doing this and why I’m not doing that… Thanks for your consideration but I can handle myself!

Harsh enough for you, sounds kind of JERKISH, but that’s just me!

Just a little bit of the TRUTH

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Posted by on October 14, 2010 in Random thoughts


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