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Love or Comfort

Is it settling for less if he’s everything you want, but you don’t love him? He treats you like a queen, believes you to be the best ever made, holds you on such a pedestal that even your biggest mistakes seem minimal. Is there better or is that the best? Will you ever actually have the one of your dreams in EVERY aspect of life-looks, style, education, finances, conversation, intellect, personality, goals, interests? Is that having your cake and eating it too? What if he has the looks you like, the personality you connect with, the religion in which you believe, the values and morals in which you agree, but you don’t love him? What else is out there…is there truly that soul connection? Is the soul connection even worth having? Can your soul not connect to your IDEAL mate? Is love all that matters? Can your souls grow a connection? Can you learn to love someone? Back in the OLD days many of them married for status and remained married for years, even married to this day. Now days when people marry their “soul mates” how long do those souls endure??? Does the comfort of life outweigh the comfort of love? If he has all that you desire, its not settling down, its settling up…nevertheless, its settling.
Some marry for love, some marry for comfort of lifestyle…call me greedy, I want both!

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Just a lil of The TRUTH

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Posted by on October 20, 2013 in Random thoughts


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Rechartered Territory

Attention: SPOILER ALERT!!!!

Not a complete spoil, but this post is about the movie Baggage Claim and the “moral” of the movie.

Those empty days, lonely nights, sometimes drunken, most times sober; You scroll and call, text, or type a simple message to him/her “checking in”. Instantly you become relevant to an ex-boyfriend, old flame, cutty-buddy or boo. “Hey you” “What’s up” “just thinking about you”. So little words with much more meaning. These are the lines thrown out and caught that opens the gate to the past. Our mentality is full of hope for the future, hope for change. Thinking that maybe the relationship will work this time, maybe he/she has matured, or lost baggage that use to get in the way. It’s something all of us have done. Not exactly in the same manner as Montana approached the situation in the movie, but we’ve all ventured back to an “EX” with subtle or unconscious hopes of making this time the one that “Works”.

Entering into conversation which then develops into visitation. Things go good for a while, and then you remember that “thing” that kept you both apart. Even if that issue has gone another seems to emerge, something you just can’t deal with. Trying to rekindle flames with a dissolved wick, drenched wood, or gasless pipe makes your love life a puff of smoke.

How often do we return to what’s familiar to just to be reminded of what we’ve known all along. If it was meant to be, then it would have been. It sounds cliché, but I’m a firm believer in what he/she won’t do, or can’t be, there is someone else ready and willing. You won’t be available to receive it when it does come if you are preoccupied with the past.


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Cougar Town-The Reality Show

Age ain’t nothin but a number, throwing down ain’t nothin’ but a thang(aaliyah)…Age ain’t nothing but a number, but maturity keeps you sane.(me)

These old ladies eager to get a young man-for what?  They initially concern themselves with the sexual stamina these young men possess.  They want the wild life, the freak show, the fire and desire (my Rick James voice).  They end up getting take to the land of ecstasy on the emotional roller coaster of lust.  Lust-though few admit it-has its own emotional train.

I am fortunate enough to witness a real life cougar in action, live and in living color.  Its’s really embarrassing.  The age difference is 23 years.  These episodes are hilarious, they portray intimate romance, but really its all about those 3 letters S-E-X.  I think it started off that way for them both, but like a woman, she grew feelings, she started caring.  Realizing he is a good guy with good genes, and personality, she fell into her feelings.  Realizing he hoped for kids one day-she was barren, she snapped back to reality.  Realizing she was the same age as his mother and frequented that house often.  She couldn’t be BFFs with her same age mother in law!

Don’t get me wrong, if you are a cougar be one by all means, but realize what it’s about.  The 3 letters, not the 3 words.

Just a lil bit of The Truth!

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Posted by on June 6, 2012 in My Reality Show


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Transitional Stage in Dating

Transitioning from the college scene dating to the real world, regular world dating.  In college, espcially a small college, guys think a little dinner and a little dating is the ticket to keeping the girl happy.  See the opening make a move scene is: “Hey why don’t you come over and we can watch some movies or something.” boom they got you and you sitting at their house every time watching tv and movies.  Then you make the statement about wanting to do something and they realize they gotta get off their butts and take you somewhere…sometimes you get a good college guy with a job who can afford to take you places.  Well, I’m done dating College boys who have goals, but haven’t reached any of them.  I need someone that is social, mentally, and financially compatible with me!!! So you would think the next move would be an older guy.  Well, I met an older guy, and it could be that he’s just too old! He wants to make me happy, spend time with me outside of the house, and cares about my well being.  All good right??? WRONG, his swag is a NEGATIVE! I’m not attracted to him, he can’t dress well enough to be seen with me in public (is that shallow??? so!) He’s not even my type.  I’m trying to give him a try just because I’ve been complaining about the others, but I really can’t do this!  Where is the College Guy Swagg mixed with the Grown Man Swagg…The world may never know!


Posted by on August 22, 2010 in My Reality Show


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