I Need Help (Relationship Help)

29 Dec

This is all new to me.  I am talking to this guy who is oh so gorgeous, and fun to be around.  We’ve only known each other for almost two months, and we spend lots of time together.  We talk for hours on our interests, goals, desires, EVERYTHING.  He has no problem telling me what he wants, and asking me how I feel.  The problem is me!!!! I can’t let go with him.  I am still gaurding myself so that I don’t get my heart broken.  He hasn’t said he wants to be in a relationship, but I think that this could lead there after a while.  I don’t want to rush him into anything, but I don’t want to be strung along…I know, I know, it has only been two months.  I don’t like going to many places with him, but he wasnts to go EVERYWHERE with me.  He even wanted to hang with my family during the Christmas Holiday.  My thing is I don’t want to appear as a couple if we aren’t one officially, because then I’ll get comfortable that way, and suddenly it will all change.  What do I do about him.  I know he likes me but I am scared of getting hurt by him if a serious relationship is not what he wants, and if a good friendship is all he wants.

Now, on the other hand, there is this guy that is heads over hill for me. Wants to be in a serious long lasting relationship and everything.  The problem here is I don’t really like him back.  I was attracted to him when I first met him, and we spent a little time together, but he had to move out of state for school, and the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder doesn’t work for me, it’s more of an out of sight out of mind type of thing.  The longer I go without seeing him, the less of a desire I have for him.  I’ve explained that, and he said we should work on seeing each other more.  I should take trips to come see him when I can.  Here’s the problem.  I don’t want to go see him,  there is nothing that sparks my interest of wanting to see or visit him. 

So, what am I to do…both guys are GORGEOUS, both are a little younger than me, both are still in college(without a job 😦 ).  Both have bodies that are wonderful…One more so than the other.  So who do I choose to spend my time and thoughts on?  I want to be in a real relationship with the first one, and can see us together.  The other, I know I can be in a realationship with, but the thrill is not there.  The only time I even consider being with him is when I think about being lonely and know that he will be there for me.  So I string him along for security.  What should I do???


Posted by on December 29, 2010 in My Reality Show


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3 responses to “I Need Help (Relationship Help)

  1. Tiffany

    December 29, 2010 at 3:52 pm

    INTERESTING SITUATION!!! I really HATE giving relationship advice, but here are some opinions:
    1st guy: You sound like me with stuff…even though its only been 2 months, you wanna know where you’re headed, which is reasonable. I agree with you on the “not being seen as a couple until we are a couple” thing. It does protect your heart somewhat and save you having to explain to family/friends later what happened if it doesnt go the way you want it. I would let him lead for another couple of months, then you guys may have to have that “what are we, exactly?” talk.

    2nd guy: seems like you really dont like him. He’s there for comfort. Sadly, I’ve done someone like that and it just ended up HORRIBLY! It does feel good to be admired though, lol! Maybe you should tell him that you two can ONLY be friends because you dont do well with distance. MAYBE things could get better when he moves back…idk.

    COLLEGE MEN WITH NO JOB: UGH!!!!!!! I go through this SOOO much! This is where I think women are at a disadvantage because we definitely move faster than men. Im in this situation now, so idk what to say about it. Its frustrating because I expect certain things, but have to keep in mind that we arent on the same level….

  2. Exotic

    December 29, 2010 at 4:06 pm

    I think you should wait and keep both of them around. Yea, u like one more than the other but how bout if it doesn’t turn out like you thought it would, than ur gonna end up with nothin. I would wait and see if it gets serious with the one you really like….keep ur options open still bc u are still single, So until you have a title…don’t cut nobody off. And it’s sooo many men out there with CAREERS…just not in this damn area…so who knows what you’ll run into, don’t be quick to cuff…think positive. 🙂

  3. mizdoss

    December 29, 2010 at 4:16 pm

    Appreciate the help ladies!!! I’ll just go with the flow for now, and let you know how it all plays out. I think I’ll string them along. It’s kind of making me happy!


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